Mandy Moore on Ryan Adams’ Apology After 2019 Abuse Claims: ‘I Find it Curious Someone Would Make A Public Apology But Not Do it Privately’

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Last year, singer/songwriter Ryan Adams was the subject of serious claims of sexual misconduct made by seven women, the New York Times report detailing that in several cases, Adams sought a sexual relationship with them in exchange for promising career opportunities. One of the women quoted in the report was singer/This Is Us star Mandy Moore, Adams’ ex-wife who filed for divorce in 2016 and claimed he was psychologically abusive. Moore is quoted in the Times report that “music was a point of control” for her ex-husband.

On July 3, Adams — who has been largely silent since the Times report came out — issued a lengthy statement of apology via the Daily Mail. In it, Adams claims he is now sober, but notes that “I will never be off the hook for my harmful behavior,” among other strong words.

Adams’ full statement:

There are no words to express how bad I feel about the ways I’ve mistreated people throughout my life and career.

All I can say is that I’m sorry. It’s that simple. This period of isolation and reflection made me realize that I needed to make significant changes in my life.

I’ve gotten past the point where I would be apologizing just for the sake of being let off the hook and I know full well that any apology from me probably won’t be accepted by those I’ve hurt.

I get that and I also understand that there’s no going back.

To a lot of people this will just seem like the same empty bull***t apology that I’ve always used when I was called out, and all I can say is, this time it is different.

Having truly realized the harm that I’ve caused, it wrecked me, and I’m still reeling from the ripples of devastating effects that my actions triggered.

There is no way to convince people that this time is truly different, but this is the albatross that I deserve to carry with me as a result of my actions.

Realizing the consequences of my actions, I took a hard look inwards and sought to find the truth behind them. What pain was I carrying myself that was so poorly and wrongly being projected onto others?

I made a promise to myself that no matter what it took, I would get to the root of these issues and finally start to fix myself so I could be a better friend, a better partner, and a better man overall.

That being said, no amount of growth will ever take away the suffering I had caused. I will never be off the hook and I am fully accountable for my harmful behavior, and will be for my actions moving forward.

In my effort to be a better man, I have fought to get sober, but this time I’m doing it with professional help. Sobriety is a priority in my life, and so is my mental health. These, as I’m learning, go hand in hand.

But I will not bore anyone with stories of my demons or use them to excuse what I’ve done. I really want to express that I’ve internalized the importance of self-care and self-work. I’m really trying.

Music is how I lay my soul bare, and in working through this, I have written enough music to fill half a dozen albums.

Some of these songs are angry, many are sad but most of them are about the lessons I’ve learned over the last few years. Those ones an expression of my deepest remorse.

I hope that the people I’ve hurt will heal. And I hope that they will find a way to forgive me.

Mandy Moore reacted to this apology on Monday in a video chat with the TODAY Show, but she doesn’t seem too impressed with it — specifically because, as she puts it: “It’s challenging because I feel like in many ways I’ve said all I want to say about him and that situation, but I find it curious that someone would make a public apology but not do it privately.”


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